Terrific Tactics to Deal with Negative People
Terrific Tactics to Deal with Negative People
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2. It’s easier said than done, but it’s one of the effective ways to deal with negative people to ignore them. Haters are egoistic people. The reason behind their negative behavior towards you has nothing to do with you. Their main goal is to attract attention to themselves. You are being noticed; therefore they want to be noticed too. This is why, the best solution is to disregard them. Attention is too precious a resource to be paid to everyone. You can best shrink hate speech by ignoring it. If you disregard your hater’s speech, it remains a boring monologue that nobody bothers to reflect upon. Don’t frown, smile or cry about it – just live on like it never existed. If you think too much about it, you might find yourself believing the negative things negative people say about you. When negative people hate, and what they say is neither constructive criticism nor positive feedback, it has no value to your life.
Have Confidence in Yourself
3. Avoid taking the comments of negative people personally. Know that when a person is jealous of you, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Be confident in yourself. Don’t allow a jealous person to affect your confidence or to create self doubt. Do following:
Keep doing what you're doing, and don't allow others to stop you.
Focus on people that support you.
Remind yourself that they're jealous because you are doing something better.
Haters Hate Always
4. Remember Haters will hate and you can’t change that. If you keep that in mind, it won’t hurt as much when the haters are doing their jobs. It’s their profession. They can’t breathe without negativity, so the best way to deal with that is to keep it in mind, and live as virtuously as you can.
Don’t Try to Please Everyone
5. Whatever you do, someone is likely to hate. Don’t try to appease negative people by trying to fit everyone’s preferences. Then you’ll end up with more people hating you. Not everyone will like you, and the quicker you accept that, the quicker you’ll be on the way to accomplish more. When you’re trying to please everyone, it’s nearer to impossible to be the best you can be.
Feel Yourself Important
6. Nobody hates a dead man. If you have a hater, it indicates you are alive and you are somebody. Sarcastically, hate can help make you feel important. You can’t win at something without defeating someone, and in return, it is defeating someone that creates your haters. So if you have haters then throw yourself a celebration party, because haters are a sign that you have defeated someone and won at something. Remember negative people are a luxury only of the great. Most times, the people who dislike you the most are those that envy you the most. They dislike you because you represent something that they feel they don’t have. You succeeded in area that they failed at. They are envious of your abilities. So next time they throw hate speech at you, remember to feel important.
Help Negative People
7. When someone feels inferior or slighted, they often express their feelings in the form of jealousy or hate. These feelings can cause uncomfortable situations and make you feel bad for your success. Confronting haters and jealous people head on and utilizing different strategies to help them overcome their jealousy will help you culture positive relationships. Rise above the haters and jealous people. No matter how negative a person is, keep your interactions with them positive. Show them a better way as follows to handle situations by being the example:
a. Compliment the person on their positive traits.
b. Be kind in all your interactions with the person.
c. Offer to help the person improve their skills in the area they are jealous of you.
Adore Negative People
8. Haters hate because they are jealous of you and your success. No one likes to be disparaged and put down, but if you are, you know that you’re doing something right. Thoughtfully thank your haters, because if it weren’t for them, you wouldn’t know how successful you are.
Don’t Over Apologize
9. There are times to apologize when you truly screw up, but more often than not, acknowledgment is all that’s required. Some version of “I see you” will diffuse at least 80% of people who appear to be haters or would be haters. They’ll even sometimes do an ‘about face’ and become your strongest proponents. Just present the facts or wish them luck, and let them come to their own conclusions.
Don’t Express Regret
10. If a hater approaches you with cursing, negativity, and unnecessary criticism looking for you to explain yourself, don’t do that. You don’t owe them anything. Don’t justify, explain, apologize, or anything of that sort. If they want you to hear them, they need to approach you correctly, sensibly, and respectfully. Never submit to disrespect. Hold on to your respect and require others to treat you with value and esteem.
Maintain Focus
11. Choose your fight with negative people wisely because time and energy are always limited. By spending your energy fighting negative people, you might find you don’t have the energy to build your dreams or fulfill your goals. To be a fighter is different from being a builder.
Twist the Tweet
12. It is the best way to fight back negative people. Hurting people creates a chain reaction consisting of pain. If a negative people tweets at you that they wish upon a serious disease such as cancer. The best to do is to ignore them. If you chose to take them seriously, your bitterness will surely grow into an emotional or even physical cancer of some sort. Understand that no one can give you the pain that they don’t have. In response, give them the joy and gentleness that you do have.
Set Boundaries
13. Don’t feel like you have to continue to listen to a jealous person vent to you all the time. Set boundaries to distance yourself from the person. Make a mental time limit for how long you will engage with a negative person, and then politely excuse yourself from engaging with him.
Follow Your Instinct
14. Sometimes you might have trouble distinguishing constructive criticism, because there might be a reflection of truth in their statement. If this is the case, listen to what they have to say, but don’t take it by heart. If you think you can improve based on their feedback, that’s great. Just don’t take the negative emotions connected to their statement by heart. Consider the words, and if they’re unworthy, disregard it.
Don’t Strike Back
15. When a negative people hates, they’re looking for a response, otherwise they wouldn’t have made their feelings known. If you retaliate, you’re giving them what they want, and they don’t deserve your time and energy. Don’t try to think of a witty comeback to embarrass them. Responding with wicked words will only bring you down to their level, and that’s not charming.
Conclusion
16. Negativity is parasite that eats you from the inside out. Everyone who is important will have haters at one point of time in their lives. Haters are people whose habit is to hate always. They are jealous of your success, but they deny it. They express negativity towards you and your accomplishments. They look for the smallest mistakes you committed, then attack, never acknowledging any of the positives. They’re critical of everything, envious of you, and unhappy with themselves to say the least. So forget them and follow your instinct.
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Prepared by Major (R) Md. Lutful Huda, presently Chairman of TIDAC and Dreamwork Limited, Chief Editor of 'Crime and Judgement' Magazine
Prepared by Major (R) Md. Lutful Huda, presently Chairman of TIDAC and Dreamwork Limited, Chief Editor of 'Crime and Judgement' Magazine
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