Easy Ways To Make Your Wife Happy

Easy Ways To Make Your Wife Happy

Md. Lutful Huda

General

All marriages maneuver through rough patches. Some don’t survive long enough to come out the other side unscathed. But many do. It's the simple things you do that make your wife happy. Show love and respect to your bride every day and remind her why you were the best choice she's ever made. Remember - Happy wife, happy life. Here are few basic tips for showing every day love to your wife to make her happy:

Beautiful Reception

After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting like start with Assalamau Aliaykum and a smile. Salam is a sunnah and a duaa for her as well. Shake her hand and leave bad news for later. You could both use a loving hug. Make a point of showing you missed her and are glad to be reunited.

Extend Help

Have a sincere willingness to give a helping hand to your wife even in her household works. This gesture applies to being in tune with her needs emotionally and spiritually, as well. Sometimes she just needs a listening ear. The most important thing is making it obvious that you appreciates her hard work.

Forgive Her Fast

It may happen that she forgot to prepare or pack your lunch, or accidentally broke your TV remote. With all that she does right, let it go when she makes mistakes. 

Hold Her Hand in Public

Some women are less inclined to public displays, but when appropriate, reach out and hold her hand. With the reassurance you're proud she's yours, she'll walk a little taller, and smile a little bigger.

Write Love Letters

You don't have to be Shakespeare; the thought matters most here. Focus on specific things you love about her. You can hide it in her makeup bag, under her pillow, or somewhere else she'll discover it. She'll be happily surprised and treasure your words for years to come.

Open the Door for Her

Opening the door is a gentlemanly way to take care of your lady. She likely grew up wanting to be a princess. Be her prince.

Carve Out Time for Her

Set aside a weekly special night just for the two of you. It doesn't need to be costly or extravagant. Just make an effort to court her.

Sweet Talks

Choose words that are positive and avoid negative ones. Give her your attention when she speaks. Speak with clarity and repeat words if necessary until she understands. Call her with the nice names that she likes, e.g. my sweet-heart, honey, saaliha, etc.

Friendly Attitude

Spend time talking together. Spread to her goods news. Remember your good memories together.

Positive Accompany

Joking around and having a sense of humor. Playing and competing with each other in sports or whatever. Taking her to watch permissible types of entertainment.

Consult Her

Consult with her specifically in family matters. Giving her the feeling that her opinion is important to you. Study her opinion carefully. Be willing to change an opinion for hers if it is better. Thanking her for helping with her opinions. 

Visiting Relatives

There is a great reward in visiting relatives and pious people. Pay attention to ensure Islamic manners during visits. Not forcing her to visit whom she does not feel comfortable with. 

Conduct Prior to Travel

Offer a warm farewell and good advice. Ask her to pray for you. Ask pious relatives and friends to take care of the family in your absence. Give her enough money for what she might need. Try to stay in touch with her whether by phone, e-mail, letters, etc. Return as soon as possible. Bring her a gift. Avoid returning at an unexpected time or at night. Take her with you, if possible.

Financial Support

The husband needs to be generous within his financial capabilities. He gets rewards for all what he spends on her sustenance even for a small piece of bread that you feed her by your hand. 

Beautification

Always remain neat and clean. Put on perfume for her.

Make Love

It is obligatory to do it habitually if you have no excuse. Start with "Bismillah" and the authentic pray or dua. Choose suitable times and be considerate.

Guarding Privacy 

Avoid disclosing private information such as bedroom secrets, her personal problems and other private matters to anyone.

Provide Assistance

Wake her up in the last third of the night to say prayer. Teach her what you know of the Quran and its tafseer. Teach her ways to remember Allah by the example of the prophet whenever you get time. Encourage her to spend money for the sake of Allah such as in a charity sale. Take her to Hajj and Umrah when you can afford to do so.

Show Respect for Her Relatives

Take her to visit her family and relatives, especially her parents. Invite them to visit her and welcome them. Give them presents on special occasions. Help them when needed with money, effort etc. Keep good relations with her family after her death if she dies first. 

Training on Religion 

Teach her the basics of Islam, her duties and rights, encouraging her to attend lessons of islam, buying Islamic books and tapes for the home library. For other than the muslims, they should teach their own religious matters.

Teach Her

Ensure she is wearing proper hijab before leaving house. Restrict free mixing with non-mahram men and excess jealousy.

Patience and Mildness

Problems are expected in every marriage so this is normal. Anger should be shown when she exceeds the boundaries of Allah SWT, by delaying prayers, backbiting, watching prohibited scenes on TV etc. Forgive the mistakes she does to you.

Correcting Her Mistakes

First, implicit and explicit advice several times. Advice her not to show any act of disobedience like constantly not praying on time, leaving the house for long periods of time without permission nor refusing to tell him where she had been etc.

Pardoning and Appropriate Censure

Accounting her only for larger mistakes. Forgive mistakes but account her for mistakes done in Allah's rights that is delaying prayers, etc. Remember all the good she does whenever she makes a mistake. Remember that all err is human. So try to find excuses for her such as may be she is tired, sad, having her monthly cycle or that her commitment to Islam is growing. Before declaring her to be in error, try other indirect approaches that are more subtle than direct accusations. Escape from using insults and words that may hurt her feelings. When it becomes necessary to discuss a problem wait until you have privacy from others. Waiting until the anger has subsided a bit can help to keep a control on your words.

Be Faithful to Her

Knowing she's your one and only is sure to bring your wife much happiness. Show her that commitment through your actions, when you're together and when you're not. Be true to her, even in your thoughts. Don't ever make her feel inadequate or unloved.

Think About Her

Anytime in a day, let your wife know she's on your mind? A quick call at lunch, a text message in the afternoon or even a special delivery will let her know you're thinking about her. 

Make Her a Priority

Your wife needs to know she is your priority. This is often accomplished by spending quality time with her. Show strength in making her feel safe and secure. Show kindness in attention, appreciation and care etc.

Conclusion

Marriage is a partnership which has to work for both of you, though this can easily mean you each feel you are doing more than your fair share. One's own effort often seems more significant than that of others. Talk is the gateway to understanding and resolution. You must try heart and soul to make your partner happy in all aspects.

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Prepared by Major (R) Md. Lutful Huda, presently Chairman of TIDAC and Dreamwork Limited, Chief Editor of 'Crime and Judgement' Magazine