Understanding Violence And Taking Appropriate Measures
Understanding Violence And Taking Appropriate Measures
Introduction
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| Md. Lutful Huda |
Understanding the drivers of violence is critical to ensuring prevention strategies are effective for everyone across our community. Intentionally causing harm to other individuals or property is a serious problem today. Violent events give rise to the question, just what are the causes of violence and what should be done when you are faced with violence?
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The most common motivations for violence can be viewed as inappropriate attempts to handle emotions. Often, violence is the medium used by an individual to openly express their feelings such as anger, frustration, or sadness. Other times, violence can be considered as a form of manipulation for individuals to try and get what they want or need. Aggressive behaviour can also be used as a form of retaliation, a means by which one uses to even the score. Finally, violent behaviour is sometimes caused because people grow up seeing violence openly displayed. Violence then becomes learned as an appropriate way to behave. Individuals who act violently overlook healthier behaviour and safer forms of expression to deal with their emotions or to meet their needs. Sometimes, individuals will choose violence as a means to manipulate others to gain control over a situation.
Causes of Violence
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1. The Media.
2. Substance Abuse.
3. Gangs.
4. Unemployment.
5. Weapons.
6. Poverty.
7. Peer Pressure.
8. Broken Homes.
9. Poor Family Environment / Bad Neighborhoods.
10. Intolerance / Ignorance.
Factors Causing Violence
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2. Having a lack of attention or respect.
3. Having low self worth.
4. Experiencing abuse or neglect.
5. Witnessing violence in the home, community, or medias.
6. Access to weapons.
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1. Porting a weapon.
2. Pleasure in hurting animals.
3. Voicing threats or plans to hurt others.
4. Risk taking behavior.
5. Use of alcohol and drugs.
6. Destruction of property or vandalism.
7. Loss of control over emotions.
Warning Signs of Violent Behavior
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1. Indicators of Violence.
2. Having a record of past violent behavior.
3. Membership/affiliation with organized crime.
4. Having an interest in weapons.
5. Isolation.
6. Harboring feelings of rejection.
7.Being a victim of bullying.
8. Poor academic performance.
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Violence is a way of living now a days. There is violence in actions, in words, in thoughts. Violence comes with a force and whenever there is a wall inside us that self created personality known as ego. Then that force of violence will hit the wall creating some damage. Obviously there is a reply back, a reaction when hurt, and that expands violence. An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. The issue has always been that wall. Someone throws a stone at the wall. That wall will feel the impact when there is enough violence gathered, sufficient force. Nevertheless, that violence will come back to the originator with the same force and with all the violence gathered through the suffering of others in the path, that is when the walls of others have been damaged. The beauty of evolved spirituality is to be able to transform that force rather than to feel the impact or to repress a reaction or a feeling in the name of being good.
Recognise Violence?
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So what can one do when if he recognizes any of these signs? First, it should be clarified that hoping that someone else will act and take care of the problem for you is not an appropriate solution. This choice actually allows the violence to continue. Therefore, one should:
Be Safe. Remember to be careful and do not put yourself in danger when trying to help a violent individual.
Share. Tell someone else if you are concerned about someone’s violent behaviour.
Protect yourself. If you are worried that you may be a victim of violence, contact the local authorities and ask for protection.
Seek professional help. A key to addressing violent behaviour is seeking the assistance of professionals who specialize in violent behaviour.
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Mr Rahim was sharing with his friend Mr Karim about this topic that are appended below:
Rahim: Violence requires of something or someone to be made, but when it passes through someone, then that violence is not trapped. That violence will transform into strength. Everything, has utility.
Karim: But that force is not violence?
Rahim: Strength, not violence. It is the strength that you have when you climb a mountain.
Karim: But, you say that this comes from violence?
Rahim: You said that the surroundings are violent. That is a nutrient for those who know how to assimilate that nutrient.
Karim: Is this what is known as transformation or we let that force go through us by becoming empty?
Rahim: First, you need to let it go through. That violence shouldn’t find anything inside you. Violence could find an echo in you and then a feeling of guilt will arise, but when there is no wall anymore, then the ball goes along without hitting anything.
Karim: And how that becomes strength then?
Rahim: When it comes back. It is a little push. It will get back to the place of origin through the same path that it was sent.
Karim: And when it comes back, it does it with strength?
Rahim: With great strength, my friend. But for that one who has let that force go through, it becomes a great push. The question is where?
Rahim: Isn’t that called pleasure?
Karim: Who enjoys?
Karim: But that does not mean to be empty only?
Rahim: Emptiness is only temporary in a world of movement, but emptiness is important. It brings creativity.
Karim: But how do you get to that experience of enjoyment without acting?
Rahim: What comes out from you towards life?
Karim: Now? It is appreciation, gratitude to be here.
Rahim: Even for that one who tries to force you into something?
Karim: That is an experience that I wouldn’t like to go through.
Rahim: Why my friend?
Karim: Because someone is forcing me to do something.
Rahim: That means that there is wall.
Karim: Yes. That is what I meant. All of these things could be just theory unless there is something that comes or happens in my conscience, to take that wall away.
Rahim: It is your decision.
Karim: Only a decision could make that happen?
Rahim: Totally.
The day will come when you could say to that one forcing you. Thank you for being there, for I realize now that there is no violence in me. And you are the instrument for that. Thank you.
Conclusion
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Take the fear to feel away from you and you would have accomplished that. If you or someone you know is at risk or displaying violent behaviour, it is important to seek professional assistance. Contacting the proper authorities, such as your local police can help provide guidance on how to properly handle the situation. Each case of possible or actual violence is unique and addressing the issue may require different interventions. Lastly, speaking to a trained therapist can help provide added emotional support and guidance for dealing directly or indirectly with aggression or violence.
Prepared by Major (R) Md. Lutful Huda, presently Chairman of TIDAC and Dreamwork Limited, Chief Editor of 'Crime and Judgement' Magazine
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Prepared by Major (R) Md. Lutful Huda, presently Chairman of TIDAC and Dreamwork Limited, Chief Editor of 'Crime and Judgement' Magazine
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