Realize Aggressive Behaviour

Realize Aggressive Behaviour

Aggressive, Md. Lutful Huda

General

1. We are, fortunately, unlikely to meet with actual physical violence in our working lives, but an aggressive voice and stance can still be used to intimidate other people. As assertive behaviour is sometimes confused with the milder end of aggressive behaviour, it is useful to compare the two and note the differences. By being aggressive towards someone else, their rights and self-esteem are undermined. Aggressive behaviour fails to consider the views or feelings of other individuals. Those behaving aggressively will rarely show praise or appreciation of others and an aggressive response tends to put others down. Aggressive responses encourage the other person to respond in a non assertive way, either aggressively or passively. There is a wide range of aggressive behaviours, including rushing someone unnecessarily, telling rather than asking, ignoring someone, or not considering another's feelings.

2. It can be a frightening or distressing experience to be spoken to aggressively and the receiver can be left wondering what instigated such behaviour or what he or she has done to deserve the aggression. If thoughts and feelings are not stated clearly, this can lead to individuals manipulating others into meeting their wishes and desires. Manipulation can be seen as a covert form of aggression whilst humour can also be used aggressively.

Aim of Aggressive Behaviour

3. The aim of aggressive behaviour is to win, if necessary at the expense of others. To achieve this, you stand up for your rights in such a way that you violate those of other people. It involves expressing your needs, wants, opinions, beliefs and feelings in inappropriate ways, often ignoring or dismissing the rights and opinions of others.

4. An aggressive person might say things like:

• It’s a load of rubbish. 
• Surely you don’t believe that?
• I don’t agree with you.
• That’s stupid.
• Do it this way.

                       Signs , Md. Lutful Huda

5. Signs of Aggressive Behaviour Includes:

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Voice

Voice may be raised at end of a sentence

Often the loudest voice

Speech Pattern

Stresses blaming you

Fluent and Very confident and Fluent

Often abrupt and clipped

Often interrupts,

Shouts down if interrupted

Face

Shouts when angry

Smile may be false

Chin thrust forward

Normal expression is set and unfriendly

Jaw set firm, teeth clenched

Eye Contact

Eyes narrowed and  look cold

Tries to stare and dominate

Body

Sits bolt upright or leans forward

Finger pointing

Strides around impatiently

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Prepared by Major (R) Md. Lutful Huda, presently Chairman of TIDAC and Dreamwork Limited, Chief Editor of 'Crime and Judgement' Magazine