Top Secrets to Become Happy
TOP SECRETS TO BECOME HAPPY IN LIFE
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1. Never regret for the past. Don’t dwell on the past, on things that went wrong or previous failures. Similarly, don’t dream about an idealized future that doesn’t exist or worry about what hasn’t happened yet. Learn from the past, think on the future, have farsightness on the future and work for today. Happy people live for the now; they have positive mind sets. If you can’t be happy today, what makes you think tomorrow will be different? Always be positive. By and large, people have a natural inclination to dis-remember positive experiences but recall undesirable ones. However, you can change the way your brain works, thanks to neuroplasticity. So now, you can train yourself to feel more contented by looking for self actualizing work along with your type of excitement.
2. You should have gratitude, mindfulness, and hope. Gratitude has perhaps received the most attention. Grateful people have been shown to have greater positive emotion, a greater sense of belongings, and lower incidence of depression and stress. You should have a positive mindset always. Positive people attract others while negative repels. Bottling up emotions and bad feelings creates psychological distress and physical discomfort. Optimism is the mind’s natural self-defense mechanism against depression.
3. Studies demonstrate a close link between spiritual and religious practice and happiness. Spirituality is closely related to the discovery of greater meaning in our lives. As the psychologists emphasizes, through the meaningful life we discover a deeper kind of happiness.
4. You should express your heart. People who have one or more close friendships are happier. It doesn't seem to matter if we have a large network of close relationships or not. What seems to make a difference is if and how often we cooperate in activities and share our personal feelings with a friend or relative. Happy people has the ability to express genuine interest in what people say, and respond in encouraging ways, is a powerful way to enrich relationships and cultivate positiveness. Listening carefully and responding in encouraging ways is a very effective way to cultivate positive emotions and deepen relationships. We get our happiness from other people, and from supporting other people. Remember that just as other people can make us happy, we are all "other people" to someone else. And cherish people who are important to you. Research also shows that married people are happier than single people.
5. By nature, human being are selfish. So you must cultivate kindness and goodness in yourself that is to think good, speak good, and do good. Be undeniably good. People who volunteer or simply care for others on a consistent basis seem to be happier and less depressed. If we want to see positive change in the world, then we need to connect to goodness. Also try to reach out to a colleague or classmate who looks lonely or is struggling with an issue. The most respected person is the one who inspires others to achieve their best or enables their highest potential.
6. Keep moving and eat well. Regular exercise has been associated with improved mental well-being and a lower incidence of depression. One of the keystone habits that leads to transformation of other areas of life and that is the most powerful habits to change in other patterns is regular physical activity. Study shows that physical activity may lead to reduce to overeating, smoking, alcohol consumption etc and also lead to happiness.
7. Don’t be afraid to step back and re-evaluate your goals. Imagine your life as a story that you can edit and revise as you go along. This kind of flexible approach requires positive thinking and an open mind. You need to actively choose to be happy. You always have the freedom to choose the manner in which you wish to approach in any given situation.
8. Discover and use your strengths. Studies by experts show that the happiest people are those that have discovered their unique strengths such as persistence and critical thinking and virtues such as humanity and use those strengths and virtues for a purpose that is greater than their own personal goals. We spend a lot of time complaining about the things that happen to us, but this is a waste of time and effort.
9. Happy people do what they enjoy and enjoy what they do. Don’t do it for the money or glory. There’s no point being stuck in a job you hate, surrounded by unfriendly colleagues just because the money is good. People forget that they are allowed to be happy at work, too. Many spend the best years of their lives trying to make money, sacrificing their health and family. In the process, they spend the same money they made working trying to recover their lost health and estranged family.
10. Research shows that happy people have modest levels of expectation and aspirations. They want what they can get while unhappy people never seem to get what they want. They also know how to avoid disappointments and how to generate pleasant surprises. This is because they strive for realistic goals and are happy with their lot. We must accept things as they come.
11. f you want to be happier, develop an outgoing, social personality. Accept invitation, join the walking club, book group or choir. The best way to savour pleasure is in the company of others. Build a rich social life, not as an obligation, but because it is rewarding, meaningful and fun. Active, busy, social people are the healthiest and happiest, in society. Get involved. Make your motto ‘use it or lose it.’
Don't Compare
12. Don't compare yourself with other. If you do so, you are insulting yourself. Just as you shouldn't compare yourself with others, it’s important not to worry about what others think about you then you can truly be yourself. Ambition is healthy and makes people happy but envy makes them unhappy. Yet comparisons with others can spoil the benefits of ambition and are only useful if you learn something from them. Focus on your goals and dreams. So you can enjoy your ambition and achievements. Happy people are spontaneous, natural and real; they say what they think and feel, and aren’t concerned what others think of them. Being oneself makes one feel free and authentic.
13. Don't worry. Stop that if you do. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Happy people don’t worry and they recognise that 90 per cent of worries never come true. Happy people plan and organise, they have goals and a purpose. You can only get what you want or desire if you know what it is. If you can't find a resolution easily, don't panic. Even disaster eventually dissolves
Happiness is a choice. Happiness can be learned, but finding meaning and a purpose in life is what leads to it, not the other way around. The happiest people appreciate and realise that being happy adds years to their life, and life to their years. I like to tell you how to choose to be happy - this way:
First of all, fill your brain with optimistic views and beliefs, energetically struggling, pursuing and working on objectives. This way, you’d be able to whine a tune, for joyful effects on your brain, heart, and body and feel happy, in due course.
Concentrate on the present moment without judging anything to grow into a more considerate and compassionate self.
Transform the little events of life into valued experiences. Reserve the overwhelming moments of your life.Note:
Written by Major (R) Md. Lutful Huda, presently Chairman of TIDAC and Dreamwork Limited, Chief Editor of 'Crime and Judgement' Magazine
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