Loving With Totality
Loving With Totality
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A Story of 'Loving With Totality'
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| Md. Lutful Huda |
1. Zinia is in a relationship with Rahim. It is known that Rahim is a good person. Rahim has great qualities to become a great husband. However, Rahim is not spiritual enough for Zinia. She says 'he does not bring much spirituality with him'. They have been together for two years from now and she is hoping for a turn around. Even though, Rahim is a nice guy. Zinia feels that she doesn’t want to settle for something which is not fulfilling for her. For most people, it is about seeing the good qualities that someone brings into this relationship. However, no matter what the other person brings to the table, there is no totality in Zinia's love. Zinia feels what she feels and there is no turn around unless her feelings change. The issue is with her. Zinia had different experiences in life before her relationship with Rahim. She had an idea in her mind on how love should be. Her previous relationship ended because Karim wasn’t in love with her. There was not totality in Karim’s love. However, Zinia wasn’t 100% into it either. There was something that she kept with her, for even though Karim was spiritual. Karim had his own issues which bothered Zinia.
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| Md. Lutful Huda |
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| Md. Lutful Huda |
2. When there is that lack of totality or wholesomeness in love, there always will be a room for wanting for more, wanting for that which is not there, which is lacking and then, the search for another one who brings those qualities will continue on. The mind keeps yearning for something which does not exist. This is the story of most divorces, from the 'wealthy and famous,' to the infamous and poor ones. The above, is a normal situation now a days. Many people feel lonely. Many people feel that they are getting old, and better take the first fish who bites the bait before being empty handed. Some people are looking for someone to make them happy. Others, are hoping for a Hollywood movie with a happy end, to unfold in their lives. Many hopes, many dreams but no knowledge of the spiritual laws in life. No one looks at themselves first.
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| Md. Lutful Huda |
3. A castle made up of a deck of cards is waiting to collapse. It will happen. It is just a matter of time. Totality in love comes when our love is wholesome, when it is a complete love from head to toe, towards someone who is willing to share his/her life with us. If this feeling is lacking, if there is something telling us inside that 'this is not it,' then that wholesomeness will be missing for sure. Then, the uncommitted 'let us see what happen,' will be there for sure. This is the time when the mind starts compromising, the mind starts believing things that are not there, the mind hopes for changes to accommodate your own will. Forget about the other. At the end, it is about 'Me.
4. This commitment does not come out of thinking. It is something that we can feel from the beginning and unless we change, things will remain the same. That is, the other person will never be spiritual enough. There is a very important point to remember that we can only get to this point of knowing, when any type of neediness is gone from our system. If loneliness is there, if there is any unfulfilled desire which we want for another to fulfill, then we are just wasting our time, for that totality in love will not be there, it will never be experienced.
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| Md. Lutful Huda |
Why?
5. As long as we are in a state of neediness, we will only look for someone to fulfill our own emptiness. We bring to that relationship our emptiness and this inner emptiness will become a demanding voice sooner or later which will destroy that relationship through dependency or through lack of satisfaction.
6. Totality of love in a relationship, that kind of love where there is no need to sign a piece of paper to demonstrate commitment, that type of love which is wholesome, which is looking to share without any further motives, that type of love can only come across when we have resolved our own ghosts, our own issues, when we have fulfilled that emptiness with the fragrance of victory by facing loneliness without escape, that is when true spirituality has been used to work in the self.
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| Md. Lutful Huda |
Through the law of fate and work, we will get what we deserve. Thus, it is in our hands, to make that movie a beautiful one. One emotional needy person plus another needy person does not equal happiness in the math of life.
A Poem of ' Loving With Totality' goes like this:
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| Md. Lutful Huda |
'Love can not be thought,
love can not be cultivated,
love can not be practiced.
The practice of love, the practice of brotherhood,
is still within the field of the mind,
so it is not love.
When all this has stopped,
then love arises,
then you will know
what is love.
Then, love is not quantitative but qualitative.
You do not say, 'I love everybody',
but when one knows how to love,
knows how to love all.
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| Md. Lutful Huda |
Because we do not know how to love one,
our love for humanity is fictitious.
When you love, there is neither one nor many,
there is only love.
It is only when there is love,
that all our problems can be solved,
and then we will know,
its joy and happiness.'
Prepared by Major (R) Md. Lutful Huda, presently Chairman of TIDAC and Dreamwork Limited, Chief Editor of 'Crime and Judgement' Magazine
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Prepared by Major (R) Md. Lutful Huda, presently Chairman of TIDAC and Dreamwork Limited, Chief Editor of 'Crime and Judgement' Magazine
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