Best Lessons Learned in Life

Best Lessons Learned in Life

Life Lessons, Lutful Huda

General

1. Everybody has lessons to share whether it’s about their best skill or it’s their life lessons learned. I tried to figure out since I regularly ask people for their best lessons and also look for the life lessons from different famous people. As you’ll see below, there’s are important lessons that I learned that helped me settle for these few lessons. Here are the best lessons learned in life:

Learn from Failure

2. Our perceived flaws and failures dominate our perception of ourselves. And with low self esteem, our self confidence takes a hit as well. We try so hard to avoid failure, but failure is the real evidence that we've tried. If you avoid failure, you avoid taking action. You encounter someone more successful, and that feeling of inadequacy washes over you. You talk with a person who is exceptionally bright and outgoing, and you feel diminished and awkward. These negative thoughts and feelings are the toxic brew we simmer in that evaporates self esteem over time. The longer we simmer in this brew, the more potent it becomes. Expect and accept that failure is part of the experience. Learn from it and move on.

Be Your Best

3. You can’t always be the best, but you can always be your best. Your best is not the same as somebody else’s. The key to peace of mind is knowing that you gave your best. I think the key to giving your best, is knowing where you have your best to give. Giving up is easy. Forgiving yourself is not. 

Model The Best

4. Find the best of the best. If you want to be great at something, learn from the best. If you thing so, that is going to change your brain for sure. When I studied the lesson learned from different successful people like Bill Gates, Shahrukh Khan, Steve Jobs and few others. They all set a bar that I never would have imagined possible. That’s what famous people do. They inspire and they prove a path. When you try to be your best and you model from excellence, it can be tough to set the right bar at a given point in time. There’s never enough time and you can never be too good. Surprisingly, I didn’t learn one of my most important lessons until I joined Army. Focus on good enough for now and improve with each release. Feedback is your friend. 

Have Kindness

5. Be kind. Be undeniably good. Small expressions of kindness have an enormous positive impact on other people. It doesn't take much to be kind. Practice it every day, in every situation, until it's your natural way of being.

Set Boundaries

6. Play to your strengths and follow your passion can do to you. Have a simple frame now for setting boundaries, and invest in your life the hot spots that is mind, body, emotions, career, financial, relationships, and fun. Another key to boundaries is knowing your values. This is especially true if you’re a people pleaser. You can aim to please, but don’t lose yourself in the process.

Exercise Gives Power

7. Exercise should be a daily priority for everyone. It makes you physically, mentally, and emotionally stronger. It improves your health and your outlook. It is the panacea for just about everything.

Life’s Not Static

8. Things and people flow in and flow out. I was thinking like a static lake instead of a flowing river. When I was younger, I thought I would make a lot of money and then live off of it. Your body changes. Your skills change over time. I’m regularly surprised by how people have made something more of themselves or how they’ve let themselves go. It’s also a reminder to find a sustainable path in life. Seasons change, and there are cycles to everything. It’s the ebb and flow, along with the waxing and waning.

Follow the Growth

9. This goes hand in hand with life’s. It's not static. When you get on your surfboard of life, follow the growth. Find the waves, and when there’s no wave make one. Pick projects that grow you. Find people that grow you. Look to the market and find the growth. Related to this, it’s important to know when to quit. Cut your losses. Quitting the right things and sticking with the right things is an art and science. It means knowing yourself and working on your anticipation skills. Regularly learn the lessons from the past, look to the future, find the trends, and figure out where to put your time and energy for the best waves. You’re growing or dying, climbing or sliding. Don’t merely be a shadow of your former self rather become the mighty Oak.

Passions Upgrade Life

10. When you find that thing you love to do with all your heart, every day feels like a gift. If you haven't found your passion, make it your mission to find it. The joy it brings spills over into all aspects of your life. Do what you love.

Focus

11. Focus on one pitch at a time, but check the scoreboard now and then. Your brain works better when it’s in the zone. Your get in the zone by being in the moment. When you catch yourself focusing too much on the scoreboard, you remind yourself to keep your eye on the ball. This improves your focus, and it helps you find your flow. You make a time to check the scoreboard, but you don’t let it disrupt your focus or rattle your cage. 

Risk Expands You

12. No risk, no gain. To make positive changes in your life, you often must take risk. You must tolerate some level of uncertainty. Taking thoughtful, calculated risk strengthens your change muscle and helps you grow.

Self Integrity is Freedom

13. When you are in denial about something, you are blinding yourself to the truth. And even if the truth is temporarily painful, it will ultimately set you free. Be radically honest with yourself so you can live authentically.

Read and Learn

14. There is so much to read and learn and explore in our very short lifetimes. Take advantage of learning every single day. Challenge yourself to acquire a new skill, read something different, take a class. Reading and learning keeps our minds engaged and sharp, even into old age.

What You Know and Who You Know

15. Just when you thought being good enough, was good enough. Unfortunately, in my experience, it’s never been the case. The people in your life can create or limit opportunities. Life’s a team sport and it’s better together. You’re the sum of your network, and in today’s landscape. Your network will open or close doors for you. Life’s not static and neither is your network. Tune it and prune it. Add the catalysts to your life, and limit the time you spend. Life’s too short, not to stack yourself for success.

Worry is Worthless

16. Dont worry. If you live by your fears, everything that can possibly go wrong will go wrong. So don't let your fears becomes boxes that enclose you. Open them out. Worry is useful only if it leads directly to a solution. But the very nature of worry implies that it doesn't. You worry about 'what if's' that aren't real, and the worry itself creates stress and physical symptoms that cause real reason for anxiety. Learn how to manage your worry thoughts.

Work Harder

17. Do your work. It's never too late. This is an excuse for not trying. Great things can be accomplished at any age. 

Shape Your Experience

18. Is your life a tragedy or a comedy or a drama? Are you unleashing your best? Connect your thinkings to your values and you light up your life. Adventure is one of my values. I found this out at my leadership trainings in Army. Suddenly thinks make so much more sense. It runs deep. I’ve got a lust for the open road, whether I’m on my motorcycle or in my Jeep with the top down. Whenever I lead a project, I make it an epic adventure. When life’s an adventure, you deal with the pitfalls. Try to figure out what your values are and if they aren’t working for you, swap them out.

Gratitude Fosters Happiness

19. Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it. Consciously focusing on all you have rather than thinking about what you don't have is a far better use of brain power. Gratitude multiplies positivity and well-being.

Structure Your Success

20. The most effective people I know set themselves up for success. They have personal success patterns for thinking, feeling, and doing. They have checklists, that remind them of what works, and they throw away what doesn’t.

Life Math

21. If you live to age ninety, how many days do you have left? It is a finite number, and one day you will reach the last one. See my earlier post of Steve Jobs and Mohammad Ali. Your calculation of life will be easier. Be conscious of the value of every single day. The words you speak have power. Consider your words carefully. Use them for good rather than harm. Once they are out, you can't take them back.

Deductions

22. Success is a journey and continuously learn and refine patterns and practices for mind, body, emotions, career, financial, relationships and fun. This helps deal with the setbacks and always find a way forward. Coping strategies for some of life’s worst scenarios. Adopt some simple practices for weekly results, such as my Friday Vision, Daily Outcomes, and Weekly Reflection Pattern that will definitely help you to get back on your shoes, when you get knocked down. Try to structure success at the social and environment level. Who you hang with and the container you are in is an important influence. Your container limits or enables you. Your personal development helps you succeed, but your container helps you amplify your results, and your support network can help you get back on your feet when you need it most. I think it’s about time for you to compile your best of the best life lessons learned. 

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Written by Major (R) Md. Lutful Huda, presently Chairman of TIDAC and Dreamwork Limited, Chief Editor of 'Crime and Judgement' Magazine